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An Evaluation on a Personal Note

In 2010 on April 30, 2010 at 3:42 am

As the semester nears it end and I realize that I will be graduating next spring, I am overjoyed and yet, nervous. And though it might seem far away, I believe 2010 will fly by unnoticed. With baby births, weddings, birthdays, vacations and other milestones, this year will be a quick breeze. Next thing we know, Soha will graduating from high school, Nadia will be mothering kids, Nabeel will be married and I will be pursuing my own ambitions no longer as a teen.

 Being a Communications major, it does scare me that there might not be a job out there for me, however, it does not make me regret my decision. I have enjoyed each and every class I have taken so far in this field and it has truly shown me the ropes of what journalists and writers do. We report and we write. I have gotten the chance to meet some cool people, do some amazing things and learn about it at the same time. This leads me to evaluate my life after almost twenty years of living it.

Do I deem myself successful?

 The simple answer is yes.

I am born to an awesome set of parents who support me in many of the things I do and even if they don’t, they still are there for me if things go wrong. I have siblings who have taught me some of the most important lessons of my life and the most important being the one that says “Be tough and learn from other’s mistakes.” And that I have. I have learned that everyone makes mistakes. I have learned from them what NOT to do and that is sufficient enough for me. I have learned about family relations and what family really means. 

But along with that, I have learned that about another type of special relation. And that is friendship. I am glad to say that I have one of the bestest friends in the world. I have many good friends who have taught me what loyalty is. Friendship is not necessarily about the people who you talk to every single day or spend time with every single day.It is the person that you can call anytime of the day and you know they won’t mind. It is the person you can sit with in complete silence and be comfortable with it. It is the person who doesn’t question your every judgment because they trust you. It is the person you can expose your raw self too and they still find you flawless.  It is about understanding and knowing who will be there at the end with you when you need them. And luckily, I have realized that sooner than later. And for those who are still on the boat with me … are the most special ones. I love you kids.

And so, I end this on a personal note, thanking you people for making my life amazing.

I have done some crazy things in my life, but I don’t regret even one of them.

– Aisha

Crazy and Lovin' It.

Keeping it Simple

In 2010 on April 14, 2010 at 6:31 am

A simple blog for a simple man.

Claiming that my blog is too sophisticated for him, this week I write on a shortened scale so that this man can understand it.

And since we are on the topic of simplicity, we might beg to ask the question — what is simplicity in this day and age?

One might say that cooking homemade bread, spending time with your loved ones and going stargazing is part of life’s simplicities. Yes, it was…back in 1890.

However, for me, leading a simple life involves having only one Twitter account that I hardly use, an old beat up Samsung phone the width of a brick and driving a 1995 beat-up Corolla with bumper stickers. And to even make it crazier for you guys, I don’t own an iPhone, iMac or the latest ridiculous gadget, the iPad. (Just got the iTouch a few weeks ago..Shhh…..)

In this day and age, being simple is not about not owning the latest greatest item or going on walks to the grocery store. It is about responding back to your tweets on time, being the first to comment on your spouse’s new Facebook picture and making sure you set aside time to read Charles Dickens on the Kindle.

Agreeing with Sir Reynolds’ words,  it is about finding a medium between too little and too much.

So, keep it to a mimimal and you shall be deemed a simple man.

 

 

Too Complicated???

Godiva – Great Chocolate for an Even Greater Price

In 2010 on April 6, 2010 at 3:38 am

“Life is a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.” –  from Forrest Gump

You are born. Then you die. In the middle of those two things, some shit called life happens.

As you go through the self acclaimed milestones in your life — whether it be graduating high school or getting your Masters or getting married for the first, second or third time or whether it be having a child (not in that order per-say) — you start to realize that life goes by pretty fast.

Just yesterday you were a two year old, oblivious of the world surrounding you, and the next thing you know, you are still oblivious of the world surrounding you…but at 82.

And you start to think….

“How did this happen?  How the hell did I grow up so fast? What if I had married my highschool sweetheart? What if I had taken that leap of faith? What if I had pursued a career of being a (insert dream career choice here)? What if? What if? What if….?”

You think to yourself again.

You look back at your life and ponder whether the choices that were confronted to you at the time were really choices at all. If you could really turn back in time and rewrite your life, would you?

Knowing what I know now, in all of my teeny-boper nineteen years of life, I would say (drumroll) a simple, thoughtful NO.

Mistakes are who have made me what I am today and without those, I would still be an emotional, self-centered, quiet, revenge-seeking psychopath. Almost makes me sound like those kids in high school who just sit there and stare at you, trying to kill you with their looks.

Point is: If we had been too scared to fall, we would not have kept trying to stand up on our own two feet. Yes, the first few times we used support. Then, we learned.

And as our learning continues throughout this short life, we must not step back and think what if we had done otherwise. Because playing on past scenarios or focusing on regrets never leads anywhere.

And as Bubba said, although, we don’t know what we will find in our box of chocolates, we do know that box will contain chocolates: some hard and bumpy with nuts, some sweet cherries and some just the perfect milk chocolate.

You Never Know What You're Gonna Get